Things You Might Not Know About Orgasms

There is one universal thing about orgasms that everybody who has had one knows: they're very, very nice. Other than that, what one person knows about this miracle of biology might be a total mystery to another. Because the best way to reach orgasm varies so widely from person to person, it's difficult to provide tips on bringing your partner to orgasm in one little article. But knowing more about your own and your sexual partner's bodies and how the mighty orgasm works --and doesn't-- can do your sex life nothing but good.

Will this article allow you to put "orgasm expert" on your internet dating profile? Nah. But since sex is a hugely important part of relationships, and orgasms are the be-all, end-all of sex, knowing more about orgasms is a step in the right direction.

Orgasms in Women

For most men (and women, too), the male orgasm is a pretty simple thing. It happens just about every time, you can almost always tell when it happens, and it's not to difficult to get there. This is very nice for men, of course. But it makes it difficult for men to understand the complexity of the female orgasm. For many women, orgasms just don't come easy (pardon the pun).

Orgasms are new. In reality, of course, this isn't true. But female orgasms have just recently been fully accepted as both possible and desirable. All the way up to the 1970s, some people --including doctors-- clung to the idea that the female orgasm didn't exist; up until the last couple of decades it used to be considered "normal" for a woman to never experience an orgasm in her life.

Orgasms are still difficult. Sex is much more open for women than it used to be. TV shows, movies, and magazines all talk about sexuality and orgasm. And they describe the modern sexual woman as one with easy orgasms and an over-the-top sex drive. But most women are neither of those things. And while positive changes have been made to the way the female orgasm is viewed, today's "Sex and the City" depictions are not much more accurate for most women than those of the 1950's.

Women really can multiple. If you're a woman who's been lucky enough to experience this (or a man who's been lucky enough to provide it), you already know that multiple orgasms are perfectly possible. While almost any woman is capable of multiple orgasms, it's much more common in older women. Why? Because it's a skill that must be learned... and must be helped along by a skillful partner.

Intercourse doesn't do it. From porn movies to magazine articles to romantic comedies, the media has tried to depict female orgasms as simple things. For the women in these stories, intercourse alone can get them there every time. But in reality, intercourse alone is unlikely to produce an orgasm in most women. A large majority of women need direct clitoral stimulation in order to come-- something they generally don't get with intercourse alone.

There are several types. While some researches disagree, most researchers agree that there are three types of female orgasms. One is a clitoral orgasm, another a vaginal orgasm, and the third is a blended orgasm, when both things take place at once. All three of these types of orgasms will feel different to the woman having them.

Women can ejaculate. Men may have seen this in porn films, and some women may have read about it... but very few people have seen or experienced it in life. However, it's true. About 10 percent of women are capable or female ejaculation upon stimulation of the G-spot.

Orgasms in Men

Men have orgasm issues, too. While an inability to reach orgasm is thought to be a woman's "affliction," this condition affects men, too. Called Male Orgasmic Disorder, this condition consists of a failure to come to an orgasm through sexual stimulation. Caused by physical, hormonal, or emotional issues, this condition leads to low self esteem and sexual dissatisfaction, and often an avoidance of sex altogether if it goes untreated.

Ejaculation doesn't equal orgasm. It is a common misperception that the male orgasm begins and ends with ejaculation. But orgasm begins before ejaculation, and can take place without any ejaculation at all. This happens often in pre-pubescent boys who haven't fully developed or in men who cannot physically ejaculate. It's also common in men who have ejaculated several times-- while they cannot ejaculate again, they can still go on to have more orgasms.

85% of men have wet dreams. Especially in during their teenage years and the beginning of their 20s, men may have wet dreams up to twice a month or more.

Too-few male orgasms are linked to cancer. A recent study in the UK showed a clear correlation between the number of orgasms a man has per month and his risk of developing breast cancer. Though breast cancer occurs rarely in men, it is a very dangerous condition, with mortality rates near 40%. And men who orgasm less than six times monthly are at a significantly higher risk of developing it.

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This article was written by Shawn Wilson, a member of the customer support team at Datepad, where internet dating is always free. Datepad has a massive directory of informative dating articles along with a great list of dating site reviews on their dating blog.